It’s also possible that sleepiness is just a “side effect” associated with a more evolutionarily important reason for the release of oxytocin and vasopressin. In addition to being associated with sleep, both chemicals are also intimately involved in what is called “pair bonding,” the social attachment human mates commonly share. The release of these brain chemicals during lovemaking and orgasm heightens feelings of bonding, love and trust between sexual partners, which may partially explain the link between sex and emotional attachment. This bond is favorable should the couple have a baby, as cooperative child rearing maximizes the young one’s chances for survival.

the release of oxytocin and vasopressin.

both chemicals are also intimately involved in what is called "pair bonding," the social attachment human mates commonly share.

The release of these brain chemicals during orgasm heightens feelings of bonding and trust between sexual partners, which may partially explain the link between sex and emotional attachment.

This bond is favorable should the couple have a baby, as cooperative child rearing maximizes the young one's chances for survival.

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Science has shown us that many of the forms in which we human beings love are holistic, in the sense that hormones are involved and that the same patterns of behavior repeat themselves when people make love or when a woman gives birth or nurses an infant. During these three moments, the body produces the hormone oxytocin.

Oxytocin is produced by a primitive structure in the brain called the hypothalamus, from which it passes to the lower part of the pituitary, to be released into the blood stream under certain conditions. Babies in the womb trigger the production of the hormone prior to birth. Not only does oxytocin augment the maternal instinct, it also plays an important role in sexual excitation of both men and women.

During the male orgasm, the production of oxytocin helps produce contractions of the prostrate and seminal glands. During the female orgasm the immediate effect of oxytocin are uterine contractions that transport the sperm to the ova.

Endorphin is another hormone that acts as an analgesic and also produces a sense of pleasure. The production of endorphin is very high during natural births and also when partners make love in an ambience of trust and security. Endorphin produces a drugged, mutually-dependent state in the couple.

In The Scientification of Love, the French medical visionary Michel Odent advocates the recovery of what is natural to the body. He explains how people produce adrenaline under conditions of stress, threat or lack of privacy and safety. Associated with fear, danger or difficult activities, adrenaline inhibits the production of the hormones described above. Adrenaline is also responsible for the pain many women feel when giving birth, and it also inhibits libido and relaxation during copulation.
 

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THANK YOU for this website. It's explained a whole lot to me about why I'm not enjoying sex, even when I want to. It's been a very sore point in our marriage--especially since the baby came. I have no libido--I figured it was hormonal, but I'm now sensing that a lot of it has to do with the fact that I'm not getting much pleasure out of the process. After all, if it's not fun, and sometimes it isn't even nice, then why bother? It's been really hard on my husband, because his love language is physical contact and affection, so no sex equals no love for him in a very real way (even when his brain grasps the concept, his heart doesn't, you know?)

In effect, then, the sex organs are actually the generators of love because they create feelings of love in the brain.

However, because the circumcised penis is an unnatural sex organ, it astoundingly abnormalizes the sex act, which, in turn, abnormalizes the feelings of love for one's sex partner.  Over time, the relationship will become deficient in sexual love, as the frustration, discomfort, and shortcomings of circumcised sex drive a wedge through the heart of the relationship.  Without sexual love in the marriage, the couple might just as well be roommates. 

The dissatisfactions of incomplete, unrewarding circumcised sex decrease the woman's desire for sexual intimacy, so gradually the couple has sex less and less often, further decreasing the love bond between them.  (Infrequent sex has a detrimental effect on the love bond.)

The partners of a circumcised relationship enter marriage with the enthusiastic optimism of youth, thinking that everything will be a bed of roses.  But sadly, the bed of roses has a thorn—the coronal ridge hook. 

FACT: In the United States, 1 out of 2 marriages ends
in divorce.  United States divorce rate is double that of European countries where men are not usually circumcised. 

Of course, circumcised sex isn't the only cause of divorce, relationship disharmony and discord.  Other factors undoubtedly play a role.  Financial difficulties, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, unfaithfulness, etc., can contribute to putting a marriage on the rocks.  However, because circumcised sex has so many potentially negative effects on sexual relations, and inasmuch as sexual fulfillment is an important aspect of marital happiness, doesn't it make sense that the harm caused by circumcised sex could be a significant contributing factor to America's high divorce statistics.

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We all know that men and women are attracted to each other on several levels—personality, intellect, looks, interests, etc.  And yet, beyond those attractions, sexual attraction surely exists.  And I think most of us will agree that It is the sexual chemistry between two people that puts the frosting on the cake of love.

And while it’s true that many non-sexual factors contribute to a couple’s attraction to one another, the importance of sexual compatibility and fulfillment should not be minimized, for this is where our hearts are truly filled with a special kind of joy.  Without sexual fulfillment, there is a certain void in the pages of our lives.

When a man and woman become fond of one another, they will naturally want to become sexually intimate. When this happens, intercourse brings the relationship to a higher level of meaningfulness.  The ecstasy of delicious natural sex is the foundation upon which an intimate couple builds a mutual sexual admiration for each other.  The wonderful sex they experience promotes the development of deep biochemical “love roots,” from which blossoms a mutual love bond that may, in many instances, last a lifetime.

But when vital sexual tissue is stripped from the penis, causing it to feel and function completely abnormally, this can cause the sex act to lose its magical appeal—especially for the woman.

A study conducted by sociologists Cameron and Fleming asked a representative sampling of Americans of both sexes—ranging in age from 18 to 55—to rank in order 22 pleasurable activities on a five-point scale.

Among males age 18 to 25, sex shared the number one spot with music.  Among females of the same age group, sex ranked fifth, after music, nature, family, and traveling.  Among males in the 26 to 29 age category, sex was at the top of their list.  Females of the same age group listed sex and their jobs tied for fifth.

Jumping to the 40 to 55 age group, sex gets somewhat of a bashing.  Males listed it behind family, in joint second place with nature.  Females in this group listed sex 15th, behind such mundane pleasures as sleeping, attending church, watching TV, and even housework!

If this is typical, it means that a middle-aged American housewife would rather fire up the vacuum cleaner than have sex.  Could their lack of interest in sex be a consequence of the kind of sex these women were getting over the years?

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